How to face break ups in a positive way

We often hear about break ups happening and that have happened here and there. Its wonderful to see that people come up strong in life once they have passed the phase of break up with their loved ones. It maybe due to the fact that they come to know about their inner strength once they have to go through such a phase. It is true that from deep pain comes true happiness. Most people I have talked to seem to have become closer to their inner voice, the call within...they have come into terms with the godliness in them. When they feel they are completely alone upon the loss of their loved ones, they have nobody else but God to share the pain. Thus he becomes closer to God.

"I have had the best moments with my beloved;
The memories are ever lasting and I am happy to live with it forever,
Its enough to keep me going till life end"
- Words from a lover.

After all he said, "Today I am there, tomorrow I may not be there"

He never promised a life long relation...he gave you all the happiness you could long for a lifetime in a short span. And finally due to some misunderstandings you had to break up. It will be difficult initially to accept the way the things have changed...he who had showered you with the loveliest of words may ignore you rudely; it indeed is painful.

See the words of William Shakespeare:

“If you love and get hurt, love more.

If you love more and hurt more, love even more.

If you love even more and get hurt even more, love some more until it hurts no more...”

And true love doesn't need anything in return. So if you had truly loved this person why not try to keep on loving the person till it hurts no more??

Its always better to let go than trying to cling to you...because if it has to come back, it will come back to you no matter whatever happens.

                                                           

                                                  

Be positive....Life is short...There is so much in store for you...Don't waste it over tears...Enjoy every second of life. Its ok to cry for sometime, but get up on your feet, and move on... move positively...Stay happy :)

It's Rrrrrrraaaaaiiiiiinnnnning!!!!!!!! :) :) :)

I sit in my balcony and see the sunshine passes away;
I hear the rumbling sounds of the nature;
Yes, its the thunder, and the lightning comes,
I see the blue skies changing its colour and becoming dark;
Birds soaring high up in the sky, vanishing soon as if expecting something;
Yes, here comes the first few drops of rain...
I can feel the smell of the earth;
Here comes the rain with its full intensity;
Falling on the earth with all its vigour;
Bringing joy and pure happiness to the mother Earth;
I can see the trees and plants dancing to the tunes of the rain;
Yes, I can see pure joy everywhere!!

Another step in life - Play school

My daughter started her play-school...her first step to an independent life. As soon as we reached the school, she opened the gate and went inside, she din't look back. I went behind her with her school bag. We climbed the steps to her play school section. She was decent enough to remove her shoes outside the room and keep it along with the other kids shoes :) As we opened the door to the play school, she found two kids sitting in the opening for keeping bags; she too joined them and settled herself along with them. She didn't turn back to see if I am there...I was happy that she din't cry and be messy. I left her there and came down to complete the admission formalities and left from there leaving her to the care of her new teachers with a prayer to God to take care of her. I came home and described her entry to the playschool to my mother; she was telling that myself and my brother were also like that, both of us never used to turn back even to bid goodbye once we reached school. I thought I'll pen down my thoughts about her day in playschool and started writing this, and there came a call from "Popcorn", saying Malu was crying out there. I ran down to call my brother and go with him soon to see if she was fine there. We reached there in 10 mins, thank God we chose a playschool not much far from home. At the gate itself her loud cries were heard. As I entered I could see her with some friends and the teacher looking from the window upstairs. I waved at her and there her cries became even more louder :( I ran upstairs and there she was crying loudly "Ammaaaaaa...." and was urging the people inside to open the door. She came running to me with a huge sigh of relief. My poor little baby was so relieved to see me there. The teachers said it would take a few days for her to get adjusted to the new environment. Hope she gets used to the ways of life, this teaching, school, teachers everything...

Purity of Music

Oh God! This is truly heavenly, this beautiful music;

That takes us to a different world,

A world which is so far and distant,

A world which is so far undescribed…

A beautiful world it is;

Which is full of greenery;

Here I am rowing slowly in a small boat;

Which smoothly glides through the serene water;

Forming small ripples which goes in circles;

Each circle becoming bigger than the previous one;

I love to be in this world….

It truly is so heavenly!!

It takes me to long distances,

It is ultimate peace…

Music, me and nature…

All blending together with the same frequency…

How I love to remain in this state forever!!

Time is precious...make sure to make it worthwhile!!

Till this date, I have been motivated or rather influence by the old moral stories that I have learned during school times like "Slow and steady wins the race" and some poems like 'Leisure' which says "What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare". After all, we all have only one life (keeping rebirth apart); what we see now is a mad rat-race where nobody has time for anything. I hope at the end of this life, I should feel like it was worthwhile....

Right now I'm getting that feeling every moment I spend with my baby...that's the reason why I'm staying near to the office, so that I get more time to spend with her. I hear many colleagues complaining that they are not getting time with their babies n hence gets frustrated. I am happy that I took 1 year break to spend entirely with her seeing her developments day by day, different stages from crawling to walking.... kids grow very fast...1.5 years passed just like that; I still remember the day when I held her for the first time in my hands and now she is walking on her own, climbing chairs...they develop really fast. Others might feel that I have wasted my 1 year of career; of course a break is a break; but what I gained in between-the time with my baby is boundlessly precious. I can always cherish that and I'm happy.

Friends...

Nothing is permanent in this world. What we have today, we may not have tomorrow. My two year old baby did something with my mobile and gosh! all my contacts, applications, messages everything got erased L

My best friend helped me to get back the contacts using Import/Export option from the sd card. Yippee…i got all my contacts back J

I started off with a negative thought, rather a true one; but since things turned out to be in my favour, I’m happy. I dint have any idea how to get the details back when my friend assured me that there was nothing to worry and that atleast the contacts could be retrieved back. That put me once again to the thought, what people would do if there were no friends? Life would definitely have been difficult and slow moving without them for sure. They are always there to pull you from deep troubles, to keep you away from sad thoughts, to render a helping hand, to make you smile, laugh whole heartedly, praise you, make fun of you, pull your legs, play pranks on you, do all stuff which you might not even think of….its a never ending list.

There was a time when once I had yearned to have good friends. I had friends at all phases of my life, but myself always being the silent, reserved and shy girl never had a chance to make the kind of friendship which usually people tell about….the ones with whom you can share anything and everything. I had always doubted how that is possible…how can one share everything in their life with someone, whether they will have time to listen to ones problems, whether they will be interested to hear that and if at all they hear, whether they truly care about it and think about it…all my notions have come to an end…I am so much convinced, such friendships do exist; friends who care for you, no matter what you are, whatever negatives you have, they see your positive side, and help you become a better person in all aspects.

Life is really beautiful when you have caring and supportive friends standing by your side, no matter whatever happens in your life; you can go through the ups and downs in the journey called life without much difficulty. I’m lucky and forever thankful to the almighty for giving me such good friends in my life. They are my pillars of strength, the people responsible for my inner peace.  

Little Mouse

In the midst of night,
When silence creeps in,
Here comes a little mouse,
Destined to be killed!


He looks so small.
Tiny as a mole,
Still crooked as a wolf,
Scaring poor mommy...

Hey little moussie,
Why aim for my house??
Though having many options...
I wanna an answer.

Many houses did I visit,
My next turn is this house,
And I'm going to be here,
Till I aim for the next one :)

Oh how rude an answer is that,
Oh little little moussie!
U better get away,
Or you'll be dead by our maids hands...

Little moussie runs away,
Scared of my words,
Or for the fear of his life,
He disappeared for my relief :)

Self Introspection

Today was a busy day at office. I always wished to work in a busy office where I can work continuously with interest so that the day goes well giving me a feeling that I have done something worthwhile. Though this was my wish, what was in store for me was just the contrary. Before joining this company,I worked in two companies. Both places I had more leisure or infact boring hours compared to productive working hours. I always used to feel sad and a bit dejected thinking that my days are being wasted thus increasing years of experience without much increase in knowledge. This being the background for my professional experience, I had ample time to make some good friends. These were times which I believe I was evolving as an individual...I started realising I have strong views for myself and there were people who would really listen to them and infact value them... These were the times when I started proving myself that I was capable of doing many other things other than professional work,writing being one among them. I believe I stopped writing after my school ...In schools,most of us would have been writers, good or bad, since we were used to compulsory essay and comprehensive writings. I am happy these days gave me an opportunity to start writing again,which again adds to the point that it improved my handwriting too which were long lost after college days. There have been times when I wondered the handwriting which once won prizes for "Best Handwriting" could become so vulgar like ghostly scribbling. I remember how embarrassed I had been when a close relative made a casual check on my notebook saying "I have heard your handwriting is really good" and ended up with a sorry look, decent enough not to make me feel hurt. But,I was hurt; No, I was sorry for myself for not maintaining my beautiful handwriting which once won a prize among one hundred and twenty other hand writings ..I got ample time to write mails to my school friends thus reliving past memories,get in touch with good old teachers thus building a new bond with them. The office where I work now offers me an atmosphere with good friends as well as ample work to keep me busy nowadays and I am really happy . When I think about my initial days in professional life, I know, it was a seasoning time for the ripe days ahead :)

What lies behind a dream?

Years ago, when I was a small kid studying in school, I had a very rare dream. I was standing alone in the premises of my ancestral home opposite which was a relative's home. As I was about to move to this relative's home, there came a snake; indeed a big one, blocking my way. The snake was very long and of pretty large size. I was standing right at the middle of the snake's length, very well aware that just by keeping my foot across the snake's body, I could get away from it and escape the snake's attack. I could sense that the snake was not in a mood to harm me and was lying there in somewhat a dormant manner. But, I was too scared just by the sight of it and wanted somebody to come and rescue me from there. But, as the usual scenario goes in dreams, I was unable to make any sound or call out for help.I don't know for how long I stood there with the snake in front of me; I couldn't move forward, I couldn't cry out for help; and yes, the snake also didn't move. It was a safe yet scary situation....Like any other dream, it was over after sometime.But like most of the dreams which gets forgotten seconds or minutes after waking up, this was not forgotten. Many a time during my lifetime till now I have thought about this peculiar dream - why did I have such a dream, does it have any significance in my life, why was it never forgotten etc.


Recently I visited Mannarassala temple in Kerala. It was the first time that I visited this temple and the feeling was "why it took me so long to visit this temple of snake Gods".It was an awesome feeling experienced while walking within the temple. It is a family temple and the family members have their "illams"/homes situated around the premises of the "sarpakavukal" coarsely occupied by poisonous snakes. It is believed that these snakes will not harm the people staying here. Infact, there is no precedence of them harming them. Now, isn't that amazing?? Man living in perfect harmony with snakes!!


The story of Mannarassala temple goes like this...It was the time when Lord Parasurama was taking vengeance on the Kshatriyas by killing them far and wide whether guilty or not to avenge for the  death of his parents. In order to get over this sin of killing the Kshatriyas, Lord Parasurama gifts the Brahmanas with a land which is reclaimed from the sea by throwing his sacred axe; the land known as God's own country, Kerala. But this land was inhabitable and uncultivable due to its high salt content. Parasumara was determined to make this land habitable at any cost. He went on a severe penance to please Lord Nagaraja,the King of snakes. Needless to say, Nagaraja was pleased with Parasurama and granted his request. Ferocious serpents arrived at the spot and spread their poison all over. This poison percolated the land wich made it desalinated and habitable with envious greenery. Parasurama then requested Nagaraja to bless the land forever with his eternal presence, which was also accepted by him.


At an auspicious moment, Parasurama installed Nagaraja who is Brahma,Vishnu and Siva in one in a place filled with Mandara trees; the place now known as Mannarasala. The installed deity here represents Anantha (Vishnuswaroopa)and Vasuki (Siva in spirit). Other deites of Sarpayakshi, Nagayakshi and Nagachamundi other Naga deities and their associates can also be found here. There is one Appuppankavu in the temple where it is believed that five hooded Nagaraja still stays doing tapas for the prosperity of his dependants.


Well, I have heard from my mother that my ancestors were also snake worshippers. By going through the story of Mannarassala and how the snake Gods still look after his dependants, I am inclined to think that the snake in my dream must be the snake God who is still around bringing prosperity and well being of his dependants. That could be the reason why he remained so calm without causing any harm....